Co-parenting can be complex and difficult, and arrangements aren’t always smooth.
What is Co-Parenting?
Co-Parenting is the term given to parents who do not live together, either through divorce, separation, relationship breakup or simply because they never have lived together.
Co-parents typically both have a role in their children’s lives and keep a close relationship with them.
When co-parents are civil, open and communicate with each other, co-parenting can have a positive impact on the mental well-being of the children.
However, separation and divorce can often be acrimonious which can make it difficult for parents to work together for the benefit of their children. This, in turn, has a negative effect on their children.
What is the hardest part of co-parenting?
Unfortunately, Co-Parenting can be full of conflict, with tension and bitterness often arising from a lack of communication.
Parents who don’t live with the children can feel left out or pushed aside, that their wishes and feelings are ignored, overlooked or marginalised.
Whereas parents who live with the children can feel overwhelmed and inundated with responsibility. This can lead to frustration, irritation and disappointment and, eventually, indifference, disagreement and conflict.
Should co-parents talk everyday?
Communication is key for any successful relationship. However, technology like social media and instant messaging can be a double-edged sword. It can easily lead to miscommunication, anxiety and disputes.
On the other hand, there are many different apps available to help families, regardless of whether or not you are living under the same roof.
What are the best co-parenting apps?
Different apps offer different options, some are paid for monthly or annually whilst others are free.
Most co-parenting apps offer a shared calendar, a place to enter the children’s details (including medical, age, clothes and shoe size etc), a contact schedule, a journal and more.
Here’s a list of some of the best co-parenting apps:
What to do when co-parenting doesn't work?
If co-parenting just isn’t working, you might want to try mediation.
This will involve appointing a third-party mediator who will speak to both co-parents and aim to assist you in coming to an agreement.
We recommend that mediation should be considered and/or trialled, before court involvement is sought.
Although we don’t offer mediation services at Frettens, we’d be happy to point you in the right direction. You can get in touch with us using the information in the full article.